The Sex Issue

So... one is saying it's better to be straight and drooling over girls all the time, rather than gay, and the other is saying he feels for straight guys because they don't get as much sex with women as gay men do with men. Better straight or gay? That is the question. Well... it seems it's only an issue if you are a man. If you are a woman you are still just either an object of desire, a dominatrix, a whore, a virgin or anything alse, but not what you should be, a human being interested in sex for the pleasure of it and why not, love. And yet again, it's a male point of view on the whole subject matter, women are not protagonists, they are the object or the objective.

This according to 2 famous public figures who are making the press talk about them, one in Italy and one in the UK.

Right now Italy's most vain Prime Minister, Berlusconi dearest, is caught in yet another sex scandal, one that would have made any leader in the world hide his head in the sand in shame. But not he, no, the Cavaliere keeps calm, smiles and carries on. In fact he does smile a lot and brushes off the scandal as something that will soon be forgotten, a passing cloud. I seriously cannot conceive why he still gets any support from the voters as well as from fellow politicians. He's a massive walking liability. I'm amazed that he makes no mystery of the shit he's up to, which quite frankly is probably just the tip of an iceberg of filth that he hides from view, and he still sits in his high chair. The most amazing thing of the sordid stuff he's trying to pass as good and right is that he thinks that sleeping with under age girls is perfectly alright. On top of that he made these ridiculous remark that it is better to salivate over girls than to be gay, which in any civilised country should have been enough to have seen him receive a massive arse kicking, but not in Italy. The gay activists maybe can't speak loud enough? Berlusconi's fellow politicians don't have enough balls to comment against his ludicrous behaviour? Well, so far only one has come forward publicly and that's Nichi Vendola, he's a great guy, a politician to watch (in a good sense) and he's gay, so of course he didn't take it too well. The problem with that stupid behaviour of Mr Berlusconi's is that so many Italians think like him. It's mostly out of ignorance and laziness, it's so much easier to stick to a medieval social structure rather than opening up to the real world.

And whilst Berlusconi makes it in the news for being such a cock, Stephen Fry fuels anger by saying that women only have sex with men because it's the only way to get into a relationship. Mr Fry said his remark was misquoted by the press after his "Attitude" interview. Now, if you know Stephen Fry's style you'll know that he likes to joke and that he would never willingly say anything so out of order. I believe he intended it as a joke. If you know what the press is like you'll know that they like a good stirring up, especially when someone's words can be reproduced to create an incendiary piece of news without much altering and just as easily taken out of context. I'm a woman and I personally enjoy sex as much as any other woman I'm sure, I don't think sex is the only way to get a relationship just as much as I don't think the best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. But that's never stopped anyone in the press from using and abusing bad clichés. I guess this time, with Fry's interview, they (all the journalists who wrote about it) thought it was a good chance to push a few more copies and they took it. I believe that what Stephen Fry was saying was to do with the promiscuous urge that most men, gay or straight, feel pretty much constantly. Maybe it's part of their genes, and maybe men and women are different from that point of view, but it's a generalisation and most of all it's a comment that is so out of character for him that I don't believe should be interpreted the way the press wants us to. On the other hand, I think that simply getting angry and saying "bye bye", like he did on Twitter, will make matters worse. If I could say something to Stephen Fry it would be: clarify your position, you have a sense of humour, your fans and the general public have a sense of humour, don't let the press win this game. And if indeed you weren't joking and you really believe women don't care for sex and that they only accept is as a ticket to ride in a relationship, please read some of those cheap soft porn books for women, they are corny but well entertaining.